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1. It’s your life not their life.
2. You’re stronger than you think.
3. You’re not the lies you believe about yourself.
4. You’re not your past – and your past is not your future.
5. No-one else is going to solve your problems for you.
6. You have the power to turn your life around.
7. You are worthy of success and you can reach your dreams.
8. Don’t put up with mistreatment and abuse.
9. Treat yourself with respect and require respect from others.
10. Keep searching till you find unconditional love; there are people who will love you just because you are you.
Dear my insecurities,
To your presence that often show upon my-anxious-self, i never blame nor i want to burden myself by thinking you are unwanted. Indeed, sometimes you do.
To your presence resulting the sadness to appear within my feelings, it often hurts, but i can’t confirm that i don’t feel relief at the same time because i can relay my sadness.
To your presence that makes me wanted to scream in irritation, because right on the time you’re showing up, i couldn’t help but feel lonely and pathetic. To sum up all the feelings i’d get from you is, pain. Unwillingly, i need to confirm this so that i am no longer suffocating.
But, because of you, the mighty word called insecure, with your presence which often ticking me up and regardless how much i hate you, but at the same time i can sense the gratefulness, i’m going to feel, will come after. Other than all the negatives, the ugly and unpleasant feelings you caused, there come the realisation that i should treasure the good things in my life, which god have gifted and about to give to me.
With that, i have to always feeling grateful towards the good and bad things running to me.
To the presence of insecurities which make me feel unsettle, resulting me to have to cheer my poor self, trying healing the hurt me. and making sure that i should do even better, i should work harder to get what i want. I HAVE to in order to reach the success, and everything done perfectly, definitely.
By your presence, dear the mighty insecurities, i once again being reminded whether the bad things will be tailed by the beautiful happenings rewarded afterwards.
The process to come to realisation of gratefulness may need quite a long time, but it is worthwhile.
Everything in life, i believe, will have a happy ending. You need to sacrifice a little to get something better in return. You have to invest first and so you’ll earn.
E, 12-7-2014 7:25PM WIB
1. Recognise the importance of forgiving yourself. Not forgiving yourself will deplete your energy, and leave you feeling all chewed up inside. It keeps you living in the past instead of living in the present – so it’s hard to make the most of what’s happening today.
2. Recognise the long term effects of not forgiving yourself. Those negative emotions like shame and regret are also bad for our long term health – as they undermine and damage our healthy immune system.
3. Accept and name the emotions you feel. That simple step can help reduce their power as it brings some order and control into our lives – instead of constantly being hit by powerful negative emotions.
4. Reflect on the fact that we all make mistakes, make foolish decisions and act badly at times. It’s part of being human – you’re an imperfect person. We wish we could be perfect and always do the right things – but nobody does, and that includes you, too.
5. Try to let go of other people’s expectations. We can’t please everyone – it’s not going to happen. Decide on your own standards, then try to live by them. If you’re looking for approval you’ll never measure up as you’ll always meet someone who will judge and criticise.
6. Practise self-forgiveness. It’s healthy to acknowledge you regret doing something – but then you need to be willing to let go of the past – and decide to move forward with the goal of doing better.
1. Give up your need to always be right.
2. Give up your need for control.
3. Give up blame.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk, and your limiting beliefs.
5. Give up complaining.
6. Give up your need to impress others.
7. Give up your resistance to change.
8. Give up your fears.
9. Give up your excuses.
10. Give up on living your life to fit other peoples’ expectations.