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Resurgent greens and stronger hues combined within the colours in the afternoon
The reddish brown has nearly gone and all the silver greys erased in darker shades that shine with slickly natured stains after the gentle, gentle rain
Clouded skies unite and demonize the dry and dusty plight of days of brutal beating sun and scathing wind
The thin veneer is quickly peeled and puddle-swamped in bloodied muddled swirls of coloured slushy earth that tinge the tracks of heavy wheels
The welcome cold at first conceals its damp and chilling steel,
and in the icy shades of the current moment the frigid bite ignites less welcome sentiments until the wrap of insulation seals the warming heat,
Sanctifies the stolid feet and frigid toes with subtle sweep of warming blood
Then after, when the sun departs to claim the earth the darkness of night, the moon’s rising unabashed and clean again to grace the nascent waiting skies after the rain.
E, 5th February 2016
1. Stop resisting change and see it as a constant in life.
2. Learn to enjoy, and value, solitude.
3. Never forget that friendship is a gift, not a possession.
4. Things are rarely as bad as they seem at first.
5. Do your most important tasks first thing in the morning.
6. Smiling seems to help with most things!
7. Schedule margin into your life – as something unexpected will often change your plans.
8. QTIP: quit taking it personally.
9. Define what’s necessary; say no to the rest.
10. Take a deep breath and wait before responding. Don’t react, and say something you’ll regret.
Like how you have all the rights to reject someone’s call when you don’t want to pick up, or when you don’t want to answer a text when it’s unnecessary to do so, or not to answer the door when you currently feel like a wreck.
No, you don’t HAVE to do all that. You have ALL the rights to do the otherwise. You have ALL the rights to say YES or NO. You have all the rights to comply and to reject. Everyone has the right to voice out their choices.
Kepada yang pernah tinggal seatap, keluarga “Siropat”
Keluarga bukan hanya tentang lahir dari rahim yang sama. Namun keluarga adalah kenyamanan yang kamu dapatkan dimanapun kamu berada.
Perantauan barangkali merupakan sesuatu yang kejam. Meninggalkan segala macam kenyamanan di rumah. Meninggalkan segala kenikmatan yang tiada duanya.
Bagiku, menemukan kalian, tinggal bersama kalian adalah kemewahan yang sengaja Allaah gantikan demi menukar kenyamanan yang terpaksa hilang.
Tidak pernah ada yang suka merantau. Namun sekali merantau, bukan tak mungkin kita akan kecanduan juga.Dan disini, aku menemukan kalian. Kalian yang kuanggap saudara. Yang lahir dari bapak-ibu yang tak sama. Berasal dari latar belakang yang berbeda. Namun nyatanya mampu jadi keluarga
Barangkali dibutuhkan waktu yang tak sebentar, sampai akhirnya kita bisa saling bercanda, duduk bersama saling berbagi cinta. Dan disini bisa berbuat sesukanya tanpa pernah dianggap gila.
Bersama kalian, aku menemukan cinta. Menemukan sosok ayah yang tegas, menemukan sosok ibu uang mengayomi, menemukan sosok kakak yang melindungi, pun menemukan sosok adik yang menyayangi.
Barangkali kini sudah tak lagi ada kesempatan seperti dulu lagi. Berkumpul, saling melepas tawa, saling melempar cerita.
Barangkali kini tak bisa lagi. Namun semoga suatu hari kita dipersatukan lagi dengan sebaik-baik waktu dan kesempatan. Mungkin di dunia, terlebih di akhirat.
Aku jadi membayangkan jika Allaah memberi kesempatan kita berkumpul dalam satu kompleks bersama keluarga masing-masing, mungkin hebohnya tak tertandingi. Hahaha.
Terima kasih telah menjadi keluarga. Terima kasih telah berperan dengan sangat baik sebagai pengganti keluarga di rumah. Memang, keluarga kita tak akan terganti, namun kalian setidaknya mampu menyamai. Terima kasih telah memberi warna indah selama beberapa masa. Meski tak lama, namun akan terkenang selamanya.
Aku mencintai kalian.
Dari seorang penghuni kosan yang lebih suka berdiam diri di kamar.
1. See it as a process, not a one time event. When you make a change in your life, there are lots of small adaptations to be made. It takes time to process and adjust to those changes – so be patient with yourself.
2. Change the way you think about change. Try to see it in a positive light. Even although there are lots of negatives and challenges, you’re likely to benefit in the end.
3. Face your feelings, and especially the negative ones. If you don’t, they’ll simmer beneath the surface and make it harder for you to cope. Feelings are neither good nor bad. They just are. If you feel bad, you feel bad!
4. Notice any areas where you have control as that will help you to feel less trapped or boxed in.
5. Pay attention to your thoughts and attitudes – and choose to look for the positives, and to frame uncertainties in a hopeful way.
6. Stay in touch with people who care, and can act as a support in this time of change.